FIXER GIRL

“The Yes Chameleon: Colors of a People Pleaser”

As the realization dawned on her, Zion felt a surge of determination rose within her. She couldn’t continue living her life for others while neglecting herself. It was time for a change. With newfound resolve, she started small by politely declining requests that didn’t align with her priorities. Each refusal felt like a weight lifting off her shoulders, empowering her to take back control of her own life.

I believe people work to please those in their lives to secure a feeling of indispensability and reduce fears of abandonment.

Soon, Zion reclaimed her time and energy, dedicating it to pursuits that brought her joy and fulfillment. She delved into long-forgotten passions, connected with friends on a deeper level, and most importantly, learned to value herself outside of being the fixer-girl. Each day, she grew stronger in her convictions and more confident in setting boundaries.

The problem with this is that reassurance from the outside world is fleeting and unreliable, so seeking this kind of approval as a means of building self-confidence is a recipe for despair and frustration.

Make it a habit to say no. Avoid justifying the “No” with an extensive list of reasons. The key is to be resolute and say “No” in a kind manner.

And as the years went by, Zion looked back on that moment on the balcony as a turning point in her life. She had discovered the power of saying no, not out of selfishness but of loving herself completely.